“Shalu, I got my posting order. It is to Kupwara”.
“Kupwara? Where is it?”
“What? Would you be allowed to take me too?”
“Do you want to come along?”
“Of course, what question is that!”
“What about your job?”
Now, that silences any army wife with a decent enough career.
“It’s okay. You continue with your job here.”, he says. “But this is going to be our life, dear. And you should know that. May be this time you could ask for a transfer to Delhi. We could travel up and down and manage somehow this time. But what about next? What if I am posted to those goddamn places you always talk about? What if it is Shillong or Arunachal or Jaipur?”, he laments.
“What do you want me to do? Leave my job? What would I do then? Sit at home, cook, clean, sleep and wait for you all day long? We don’t have a baby! Not even a dog!!”
“Dog? You want a dog now? How many times have I told you that it is a responsibility. That with us moving around every two years……”
“God! That’s not the point!”, I cut him off in between. Men, I tell you!
After about ten minutes of him wondering what I would have meant, he continues, “You know what! You should get a B.ed. All Army Wives do that. There are likely to be army schools where ever I am posted and you could teach. You wouldn’t have to sit at home. You wouldn’t be bored too”.
“You got to be kidding me! You want me to become a school teacher? After my M.Tech? Here I was thinking about enrolling for Ph.D and you are.. you! Oh God!”
This is a typical scenario in all Army homes. I could bet my life on that. This conversation would have popped up at least once and may be, just may be the outcome would be different. I respect the ladies who have decided to sacrifice their career, something which they spent their youth studying for, working for! And I do not have any loathing towards teachers as well. My Dad is one and I have utmost reverence. But being forced to or choosing such a career just because you do not have any option is sorrowful.
And could we blame the Officer for this? No, what’s the point in being married if you are going to stay separately? This conversation had happened at least a fifty times now in our three years of marriage. Of course, with no definite conclusion! As they say, life goes on….
P.S: I continued with my job and it’s now been ten months since we are living apart. And if I decide to leave my job and join him, it would be because I have thought over it day and night.
I am Married to the Olive Green and I’m writing about the 26 things which I get to do/experience that you as a Civilian wife do not!
I hope you come back again tomorrow!
Meanwhile, here is an easy Chicken recipe from my Food Blog to try out!