We, the Army Wives are bound to be asked this question, at some point in life. May be as early as the first week of our marriage, three years or at least in ten years. The question is inevitable.
As I mentioned before, when we sign up for being an Army Wife, other than the obvious agony of separation, fear and responsibilities, there is a huge sacrifice which we make. Our Career.
Last month, I met a young officer who recently got married. And she is a Doctor, who has ranked 8th in the Post Graduation Entrance all over India, and is currently doing her course. I was shocked. What future does she hold?Not that I should pry into someones’ personal life. But, the thought was unavoidable.
Take me for instance, after completing my Masters in Computer Science and Engineering, having enrolled for an MBA and working in the IT sector since five years, I know for sure, that if I have to live with my husband, I got to QUIT my job. Because it is quite obvious that there won’t be an IT company in the hillocks of Shillong or the snow-clad mountains in Leh.
This is our story.
After being an LLB, CA, MBA, M.Tech or a Ph.D, you are going to sacrifice your hard-earned job so as to join him.
Is that bad? Well, I cannot answer that question. It is a mutual decision between the couple. I can answer that for myself though. I cannot imagine sitting at home doing nothing. No offense to the homemakers, I know you are doing a terrific job, looking after the family. But, after working so much all these years, day and night (thanks to my shifts), I simply cannot be at home. At least, that’s what I think so. I might enjoy a break, may be of two months. But I am definitely going to go mad. He knew this and didn’t force me to quit my job and join him when he left me for posting about ten months ago. How thoughtful!
As an Army Wife, you do have lot many options. Like taking up a B.ed degree and teach in schools (evident, because there will be schools at all the places of his posting), if you have a Masters you teach in colleges, if he is in a good posting you take a job as per your qualifications. All temporary though. But, something better than nothing, don’t you think?
It is now time for me to take a decision.
When I decided to stick to my job, the whole world was pointing fingers at me, condemning me for the decision I have taken, asking why family was not important for me, whether I do not feel the need to bring a baby into this world.
Now, when I finally decided to join him, the same world had an entirely different opinion. All they ask is how I can decide to quit my job? Why I studied this much? How I can be a burden to my husband? Whether I realize that I will have to ask him for my daily expense? Even for buying an inner-wear? Oh, the list continues! And I understand that people should keep their nose out of other people’s business. Not that I cared then. Not that I care now. But this is what each of us go through sooner or later.
So, what do you think?
Would you be ready to quit your job to have a family? Do you think I am insane if I decide to continue my job or join him?
I am Married to the Olive Green and I’m writing about the 26 things which I get to do/experience that you as a Civilian wife do not!
I hope you come back again tomorrow!
Meanwhile, here is an easy Chicken recipe from my Food Blog to try out!