“Dear God, why do bad things always happen to me and me alone? It’s not fair. I think it is all my fault, I’m not good enough. I’m a loser and I will always remain one”. Have you ever had these thoughts? I have.
There are times in our lives when we wallow in self-pity.
We wonder why difficult things never happen to ‘bad’ people and why awful things happen only to us. There are days when we only see what’s wrong and struggle to see what’s right. Shit happens (sorry for the language, but that’s a fact!). We cannot escape from awful circumstances in life. You get angry, mope around, cry your heart out and also feel sorry for yourself.
But then, at some point, you ought to shake it off and not let it consume you completely.
A couple of years ago, I suffered from a broken heart. I will be honest, the whole thing shattered me. I blamed for all the horrible things that happened. I felt alone, abandoned and unloved. My anxiety skyrocketed; I was overwhelmed. I fought every day to get up, go to work or do something good for myself.
I thought I will never be happy again. I was simply a hapless victim.
I gave in to self-pity. I cried in public, at work. I wore my swollen, puffy eyes like a medal of honor. I am not sure if I should mention the word clinical depression here, simply because I don’t want to use it loosely like most people do. But let’s just say I felt my heart being ripped apart, every single time I took a breath. I refused to be consoled or to acknowledge the love and common sense around me.
I only cared about myself and my broken heart.
Break Free from Self-Pity
I still have crying spells at times. But one day, I chose to gather the courage to lift myself up, smile more and take charge of my life. I refused to be a victim of self-pity.
“It’s all right to sit on your pity pot every now and again. Just be sure to flush when you are finished”. – Debbie Macomber
a. Embrace the fact that you constantly self-pity. Do not fight it.
b. Be thankful and practice gratitude. If you like journaling, do that, either in your journal or on your blog. Nothing is inapt. You can be thankful for a good cup of tea or a book you read.
c. Sit in the sun. I mean it. You never know if you suffer from Vitamin D deficiency. There is an unexplained change in moods, weakness, and fatigue. I for one was suffering from borderline extreme deficiency. Thanks to the night shifts at work for five years, I always stayed in bed in the mornings. I had to get a shot and now, I make it a point to take a book, sit in the sun and read for some time, every single day.
d. Do things that you love– dance, exercise, travel, watch funny youtube videos, walk, or meditate. It helps you elevate your mood and also meet new people.
e. Get a pet. Trust me, it will make you feel so much better. Do you want to know how? Follow @muffytails on Instagram.
f. Lastly, Hold on to hope and simply, make yourself a priority.
Tell me, do you wallow in Self-pity? What do you do to let go of the hurt?
This post was written in response to the Quote Prompt.
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- That one moment you’ll cherish for life.
- “It’s all right to sit on your pity pot every now and again. Just be sure to flush when you are finished”. ~ Debbie Macomber
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