“When you don’t talk, there’s a lot of stuff that ends up not getting said.”
― Catherine Gilbert Murdock,
My roommate and I were having a chitchat. She had been away at home for the weekend and I was going haywire not knowing how I was supposed to spend three days, alone. This is the first time we had a hearty laugh, spoke about things that interests both of us and it was finally good to get to know a person other than my spouse! Yeah, married life makes you think that all you need is your spouse!
Anyway, she was mentioning about the experiences she had with her ex-roommates- each one a masterpiece in itself. While one fought with her because she threw out the rotten veggies from the refrigerator, the other stopped talking when she expressed her disregard for bringing guys (read different guys) at home every other day. She said, “Arrey, Come on ya, if you feel bad at what I say or do, you talk to me! You don’t just shut your mouth and go silent for days, weeks or months! I had to put up with the crap for around eight months. There is no point in waiting for the other person every single day to talk and clear the air”. The till then chirpy me went silent all of a sudden.
I used to always wonder what it was like being kids. You fight, you cry, then you patch up- either by offering your lunchbox or saying sorry. Adulthood is different. I’m always the first one to apologize, even if I feel that I wasn’t the one who was wrong. I have had such hard times too because of this so-called habit. I have always been taken as weak and have most of the times been shouted at by the other person. “You don’t hurt a person and simply say a five-letter word”, I have been told. But, if somebody is making an effort then why is it hard to accept? What is it that refrains you from not speaking to one another? Is it the ego that is hurt? Or you don’t value your relation more than your hurt ego? I understand that you want to be left alone, that you need time to cope up with the hurtful words or deeds. But how long is too long?
What have the world come up to? It makes me agree to whoever said that we talk to another when you need a favor, or simply because you are bored, as if you are here to entertain or like being used. I honestly would let someone tell me that they are done with whatever crap I did and that they don’t want to talk to me anymore than ignoring or going mum. Call me melodramatic or emotional! But that’s the way I am. You talk! You don’t just shut the hell out. Maybe, you’ve better things to do in life. Or maybe I can think that it’s your loss and not mine. But who doesn’t like to talk, sort things out or even have a closure? I wish life was simpler, where you don’t walk past as if you don’t know the other.
So what do you say? Do you believe that let bygones be bygones? Or would you make an effort to clear things out?
P.S: I’m not starting a tangy thoughts series here. But who knows, maybe!!